It Isn’t The “Abstinence”, It’s The “Only”
Yesterday, the Globe ran a story about Governor Patrick rightly rejecting abstinence-only-until- marriage federal funding in his budget. Predictably, ab-only proponents immediately cried that the Governor wants to give up federal grants that are merely used to teach students about abstinence. They want people to believe that the Governor doesn’t believe in abstinence and wants kids to go around “doing it” as much as possible.
This is standard fare for proponents of ab-only. They want people to believe that without abstinence-only-until-marriage programming, abstinence isn’t valued and won’t even get a quick mention in typical sex education classes. They are (gasp!) wrong. Quite the contrary, comprehensive sex education curricula are abstinence-based, emphasizing that delaying sexual activity is a great choice for young people and not having sex is the only sure fire way to avoid pregnancy or disease.
Comprehensive sex education doesn’t stop there; it also provides information about contraception and safer sex. The goal of comprehensive sex education is to avoid unplanned pregnancies and the transmission of disease. It recognizes the fact that most young people become sexually active before leaving high school and many need information. Abstinence-only-until-marriage programs may not discuss contraception or condoms except to emphasize their failure rates.
So, what is the goal of abstinence-only-until-marriage programming? The federal guidelines governing this funding require, among many things, that students be taught that the “expected standard of sexual activity” is abstaining from sex outside of a “mutually faithful monogamous relationship within the context of marriage.” (More on these guidelines and gay kids tomorrow)
Moreover sexual activity is defined “as any type of genital contact or sexual stimulation between two persons including but not limited to sexual intercourse.” No sexual stimulation between two persons? Let’s be honest, if you’re over-the-moon gaga for someone at fifteen, sexual stimulation doesn’t take much – it could be holding hands or a hug. The above definition isn’t abstinence – it is chastity, a religious virtue more appropriately taught in a private religious institution, and an entirely inappropriate goal in a public school class.






